“Fake” People

Society has a set idea of what is honest and good, and what is dishonest and bad. Each person within a society has their own individual ideas on what they believe to be truthful and genuine, and they judge others based on those ideas. These ideas are contrasted against other people’s actions and ideas, and through this they (sometimes) can classify others as fake. But someone who appears to be fake, they either may not actually be deceitful; they may be trying to accommodate someone else. Someone who is being deceitful to others disguises his own self to appeal to someone else, and must lie to himself and others to justify his own feelings or actions. But when someone is trying to accommodate someone else, he is simply expanding a part of his personality to meet their wants and needs, and sometimes his own. This is not being deceitful in any way, but taking something that is already there and ‘blowing it up’ to a more prevalent level. These two are commonly mistaken for each other, but they are two different things that should be taken into consideration when someone classifies someone as ‘fake.’

An example of someone being deceitful would be a teenage boy having little sexual activity in his life; feeling negative about himself because he believes girls his age do not see him as sexually attractive. One day, this boy goes to class and decides to boast about his sexual activities with multiple teenage girls in the class. The praise he gets from the other teenage boys in the class provides him with encouragement and positive feelings, though he knows the actual truth and so do the girls. He must now continue to lie to avoid being ostracized by his male peer, who will likely become suspicious if the girls voice any objections.

An example of someone accommodating someone else by expanding one of their traits is a teenage girl has a crush on a teenage boy in her school. She has known this boy for quite some time, but her feelings grew more for him than his did for her. The boy has primarily has interest in girls that wear black clothing, but the girl does not wear normally, so she has little chance of catching the eye of the boy. Over time the girl notices the boy’s interest in girls with a darker appearance, and decides to purchase some black clothing to improve her chances of attracting her crush. She wears the newly bought clothing to school the following day, and the boy notices her change of appearance and it sparks a conversation among them; which later on sprouts a closer relationship between the two. She is not being deceitful but simply accommodating someone else, primarily for herself and secondarily for the crush. There is nothing ‘fake’ about this girl, because she is the still same girl from before the change; just in a different style of clothing.

A group of people were to only hear about the teenage boy’s claims they would think he was being genuine, since none of the teenage girls claimed different. However, if they knew the truth behind the boy’s claim they would classify him as fake and a liar. If those same people saw the change of appearance of the teenage girl; they would not think much of it, because the girl simply changed her clothing from the day before. If they knew the reasons behind that, they would not think of the girl as being fake, because it is just a wardrobe change; no more deceitful than fabric. Their motives are clear: the boy to boost his self-esteem through falsified claims; the girl to heighten her chances with her crush. The motives are easily differentiated and to see who is truly a fake or genuine person.


I Want and I Will

People commonly use the statements “I want to do…” and “I will do…,” and depending how it is being used, each can hold a lot of meaning to the listener and speaker. The former statement refers to someone that wants to do something for someone or for himself, but has not set his mind to doing it. When he says it to someone or himself, he has decided on doing it at that present time, and what he wants to do may be completed at a later time. The person is “wanting” to do something, the “want” leaves room for failure, because he wants to do it but is not “willing” to do it. The time between when it was said and the possible completion of it is when the failure may occur. When the person does not fulfill his wants to himself or someone else, he may not feel as guilty (bad, shameful, regretful, sad, etc.) about it, because he did not say he “will” do it. The latter statement refers to someone that is willing to do something when it is said at the present time, and has set his mind to doing it in the future. The statement is a lot less flexible and leaves very little room for failure, because he is committed to doing what he said he was going to do and he is “willing” to do it instead of ‘wanting” to do it.

When comparing “I want” and “I will,” one is able to reflect on the difference between when one simply says, “I will do something for you” or “I will do this for myself” and when one says, ” I promise I will do this for you” or “I promise I will do this for myself.” When one promises something to herself or someone else, she makes a conscious decision to respect the pact that was made, and try her hardest not to fail.  When she only says she is going to do something, but with no promise, there is not a mental (or emotional) contract and the likelihood of the act happening is lessened. Promising in itself holds a lot more meaning than “I want” and “I will,” because it is a bond between two people (or more) or to oneself, it is held above both the former and the latter statements.

When you find yourself in a situation with others or yourself and one of the statements (or both) “I want” and “I will” have been used, take a moment to reflect on what was said (if what was said holds any importance); come to a conclusion on if the person is truly genuine with his words.

Pure, Mixed, and Impure Listeners

Music is a magical and abstract thing that can persuade, resonate, evolve, and move people to do, to create, or simply to feel something. It is almost impossible to capture and explain the essence of music; but a lot of people have tried and gave their perspective and feelings on their preferred type of music, and how it influenced their lives. They are not all wrong, per se, but one person’s perspective on music means it is not the same for every other person. The feeling someone gets from music is unique and individualistic.

Even though music is meant to be for everyone; anyone can choose to listen to whichever type they prefer over the others; or listen to all different types of music. However, people should try to listen to the music that they relate to the most; music that creates more feeling(s), thought(s), and emotion(s) than the rest of the styles of music they also enjoy. This way they can always be inspired by their type of music; and use their inspiration towards something beneficial for themselves.  An example of this would be when weight lifters listen to music to get “in the zone” or get “pumped up” before and during a weight lifting session. The music is creating a “zone” in which they are able to perform the best that they can perform (their performance, in this sense, is the best they believe they can perform or how much their body allows them to perform). This is only one example, but this applies to (almost) every type of person; from weight lifters to computer programmers. Music has the ability to put anyone into the “zone” and seemingly enhance their abilities (of course, only if they are “in tune” with the music that they are listening to).

Whenever someone says they listen to music, or a lot of music, there are three possible categories they can be fit into. The first category of listeners are “pure listeners.” They have a true and genuine love for music, not just specific parts of music; their love is for everything that music is. It is sometimes difficult to express what they think or feel about music; because what they feel is nearly impossible to verbalize to someone else. After the first category, there is the second category, considered “mixed listeners.” They possess some attributes of the pure listener and the impure listener; some aspects of music they love and appreciate to the fullest extent, but these feelings do not apply to music overall. Some aspects of music they push aside, dislike, or completely ignore; which tends to be found in an average person who casually listens to music. They could be found solely paying attention to mainstream music; not delving much into underground music, and/or possibly following some types of music because they want to be accepted by their peers. Now, the third and final category; “impure listeners.” They do not possess any attributes of a pure listener, nor do they possess any genuine love for music. They tend to stick to the music on the radio, television, or by their peers. Also, they may be deceitful to themselves (and others) and simply follow the music that their peers listen to, to secure social acceptance and not be that “one guy (or girl),” even if they do not like the music they are listening to! They will barely (if ever) delve into underground music; or stray away from the mainstream path.

Now which category do you fit in?

Smarts Equal Potential

Intelligence is an amazing thing to have; some born with it; some born without; some gained; some lost. It is often mistaken for smartness, people are quick-to-judge when someone acts smart, but lacks actual intelligence. The same could be said about lacking common sense and being misjudged and being called dumb, stupid, moronic, or being an idiot. This is where people are wrong with their judgement, because they are judging others based on what the person’s first impression is; and it is not a good judge of intelligence to base it upon a first impression. Overall, it is all situational; the first conversation may be something that the person knows little about, does not speak up or speaks incorrectly about the subject; then is seen as dumb. However, if the subject is something the person knows a lot about, but knows nothing about anything else, speaks about the subject fluently, correctly, and without any trouble; then they appear smart or intelligent. It is difficult to say if a person is intelligent or smart off of a first impression, so people should save their time and get to know someone (if they care to); before they judge them based on it.

This does not always apply with only first impressions either; this can be at any given time really, but does not apply too much to someone you have known for a long time and have had several conversations with throughout the relationship. The reason being is because you have known the person for a long while; know how they work, what their good at; bad at; know a lot about; know nothing about; etc. So they have a general idea of the person; and the person has a general idea of them.

A lot of people have intelligence, or the average amount, but do not have the smarts to use the intelligence they were born with or learned. That is when the difference between being smart and being intelligent separates. Smarts is the act of using the intelligence you were given or learned and put it towards something that will benefit you; firstly; and benefit the chosen people around you; secondly. However, it is a difficult task to realize that someone is actually intelligent and have the smarts to do something with it; being that most of the populace have negative outlooks on each other, and are too busy with thinking that they are not either intelligent or smart; and continue to let their abilities lay dormant.

This is why they need to realize their potential and use their smarts they were given; act upon whatever amount of intelligence they have; know what they may be good at, something they may have a knack for; pursue it and prosper with it! This could be anything and is usually different for each person; intelligence is not just about knowing a lot about a lot of things; they can use their intelligence to do things not usually related to intelligence; being able to draw well, make beautiful music, write novels, become a professional in a sport, excel body and mind through studies and exercise; anything can be done if they figure out what they’re good at; become great and/or master it and prosper with it!

When it comes down to it; smarts can be related to potential; by definition potential is “capable of being or becoming.” Using the smarts they have, you are capable of acting upon the intelligence and make it into something; or in the process of becoming something. However, not all smart people realize the smarts or potential they have; let it become stagnate and/or not even be relevant to their everyday lives; and fade away with the rest of the masses of people who were unable to realize the same thing.